Start to feel better about coming to work

Written by Veronica Jacks
December 13, 2010

In my 22 years work experience dealing with so called managers I have found only a couple good people that truly deserve the job title [Manager].  These people work to maintain organizational vitality and is willing to go that extra mile for the sake of his or her employees.  However, the majority of managers I worked for and I say for, because that is exactly what it was working for a person who carried the title [Manager].  These people did not understand power and authority do not authorize them rights negatively intervene on an employees work efforts. 

What can employees do when the manager's negativity is impacting work efforts. For example, if your manager is constantly putting you down, making you feel worthless, and rejecting your ideas. However, as a person who enjoys receiving a pay check will continue to come to work and try to tolerate this type of behavior, hopelessly, believing that things will get better in time but the situation never improves. Sometimes employees who are faced with these situational types of circumstances want to blame themselves, they walk around feeling ashamed of who they are, their productivity slowly begins to deteriorate, and they begin dread coming to work every day.

The employee begins to believe he or she is stuck in a dead end job just because the manager's negativity is impacting work efforts. Sometimes the employee begin to seek out opportunities to get back at the manager. However, this only adds fuel to the fire allowing the manager to use his or her mighty pen to document behaviors of the employee out of anger or jealously.

The employee begin to perceive this manager as an evil powerful demon from hell that has a strong and mighty pen. This may cause the employee to feel weak and intimidated especially when he or she try to compromise with the managers negative attitude. The employee begins this emotional tirade because there's no way to compromise with the devilish manager. This manager seems to be obsessed with taunting the employee.

Sometimes the employee will build up enough courage to complain to human resources or upper management about the maneuvers or the manager's negative attitude. However, this also seems to backfire and the employee gains a reputation of being a liar and trouble maker. The situation surrounding the circumstances continues to worsen only because the manager's wickedness prevails once again. The employee's heartfelt distress finds other employees to pour out his or her feelings because the situation is causing emotional stress.

Some day's the employee will just sit at his or her desk and cry out of fear of one day losing the job security that he or she has worked hard to gain. However, the employee has done nothing wrong to deserve this type of treatment from the evil manager who has a negative disposition and negative attitude. The other employees are afraid too and refuse to speak out about the fearful situation. If anyone speaks about the situation he or she may become victims ending up ostracized from the group.

The employee spirit is broken, he or she begin to live with this sadness, depressed, and unmotivated to move or do anything. The evil manager circles around taunting the employee making snide remarks like a animal preparing to devour the prey. The evil manager continues to make the employee feel undervalued, worthless, and useless. Wait! Let's stop this inevitable unorthodox circumstance where the manager will win and the employee will lose. This circumstance should not be in favor of the manager.

Let's examine the facts of the situation for a minute to see if this can be worked through in favor of the employee. First of all circumstances such as the one described above takes time to evolve. Therefore, to develop a positive outcome building time frames is an essential element. As long as the employee is not disruptive, work well with others, trustworthy, and respectful. This situation do not occur suddenly. The estimated time frame for this to run a full course is three or more years. Sometimes this situation occurs so slowly it's hardly noticeable. For this reason the manager can proceed with his or her dastardly plan.

The manager may begin the scenario with mild complements and gestures of goodwill. This tactic is designed to make sure the employee is cooperative. The manager will do things to undermine the employee's integrity. The manager may send additional work to the employee from other sources. This tactic is designed to keep the managers hand clean.

To change the course of this situation requires sophisticated effort from the employee to draw attention to the manager. The employee will need everyone to focus attention to how the manager is manipulating the employee. Of course the manager will blame the employee for creating a conflict. Visible signs of a conflict between the manager and employee is the best thing. The employee can formally request to be transferred. The conflict has reached the plateau with no compromise at the peak. The battle between the manager and the employee will distract productivity unless the employee gain some distance from the manager.

This task can be completed from asking the manager some really stupid questions. The dumber the questions the further away the manager will get. The conflict is still there but the course of the conflict will inevitably change direction in favor of the employee. Sometimes conflicts can not be avoided when the manager is manipulating work efforts negatively. The other employees may want to join in with adding more stupid questions to the manager's negativity. Soon the employee will start to feel better about coming to work. The employee can change the inevitable unorthodox circumstance. The manager will have to rethink his or her course of action therefore, the inevitable win/lose circumstance has manipulated into a win/win situation.